Everyone is using dating apps these days. Tinder, OK Cupid, Hinge, Bumble, J Date, there are too many to count. But they all have one thing in common: people lie in their profiles. Many people lie. So how can you spot a liar and what should you do about it?
The answer to the second question is subjective and depends on what you are looking for and care about as an individual? But the answer to the first question is purely objective. Now here are the five top examples of red flags to look out for with people you meet on dating apps. As always, we present the in no particular order.
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They Lie
Liar, liar, pants on fire! Remember that one from when you were a kid? Who knows what it’s supposed to mean? Maybe I means liars should be set on fire or something like that.
Well it’s one thing to lie about the little things, like how much you weigh or even what kind of music that you like. Then there are the mid-level lies, like lying about your age, if only by a couple of years. But what could someone possibly be thinking when they make the big lies.
So pay close attention to what they write about themselves and their experiences.
Did he or she lie about their job, how much they earn and so forth? What did they think would happen when you found out the truth? You had to find out sooner or later.
How about lies about military service or having gone mountain climbing or sky diving? At some point you will find out the truth. Better sooner rather than later. Such people are either con artists or just plain nuts. If they tell tall stories that you find hard to believe, then do some checking right away.
They Are a Cheapskate
Where did you go on your date? Was it fancy? How much did they spend? OK, so maybe the first date was just a get together over coffee, but what about after that?
Has the person said “I’m a little short on cash tonight, get you next time,” or anything like that? Do they talk about being between jobs, or taking time off? Be afraid! Be very afraid!
If you like the guy/girl and just want to have some fun then OK. But if you want a serious person with a real career, be careful and be forewarned.
They Must Be Married
OK, so you don’t care. You just want to hook up with someone. Well that’s what Tinder is for. But we’re talking about serious dating site here. And we are talking to people who really want someone to date and not just …
So here’s the deal. We’ve all seen those TV shows where the lonely single woman meets a guy who is too good to be true. Just as she starts telling her friends about how he just might be the one, someone comes along and tells her that he is married. Well this is a two way street. There are women who are married and use dating apps to cheat on their husbands too.
If you don’t care, then that’s your business. But is you do try and look up the person on Facebook or somewhere else and see what you can find out.
Looks too Good to Be True
If the picture on the profile looks like a model, then it probably is. Or at least the pic has been photo shopped. You might wonder what the point is in using a fake picture. Some people think that if the pic at least looks like them a little bit, then they can get away with it. Or maybe they just aren’t rational people and don’t see why it should matter that it’s not really them.
If you think about it, this is not much different from people using old pictures of themselves where they are younger, thinner, and look a lot better. No matter what the reason, you might want to swipe left, or whatever it is that one does, and pass on these people.
The Phone Call
You may set a time to meet without first speaking on the telephone. But if you do speak ahead of time, and this is always advisable, listen carefully to their voice. Sometimes their tone can give things away. Ask them a couple of serious questions and see how long it takes for them to answer.
If it sounds like they need time to come up with an answer, then it means that they are not trustworthy. So just hang up the phone and move on.
