Published On: Thu, Nov 10th, 2016

Do you feel Worthy of Love?

Micki Lavin-Pell, MS, MA is a Marriage and Family Therapist and Relationship Coach, since 2002. She has worked with hundreds of individuals and couples to help them create relationships which fulfill them, enabling them to thrive. With individuals she explores: the role of attraction; overcoming barriers preventing them from creating relationships, navigating the transition from dating to relationship to marriage.



Jonah had been on so many bad dates by the time he met me, he was completely spent. His head hung low and his shoulders were hunched, he barely had strength to stand up.

He felt as though his body had been through the mill as week after week he went out on yet another date leading to nowhere. Before each date he would think:

“How can this possibly be the one?”

“What is she going to like about me?”

“What do I have to offer her?”

“Can I allow myself to feel loved”?

When he actually showed up for his date he felt about 2 feet tall as all his negative self-talk took hold.

While most of us just want to “meet the one already…for the love of G-d, ” we don’t realize that our frame of mind or state of consciousness is throwing out negative thought patterns that are blocking us from finding love.

For those of us who do, we hope no one will notice. But guess what, they notice. I mean, come on, you notice when they are putting out negative stuff too. We all notice everyone else’s negative crap.

We just hope that somehow our own garbage will be overlooked, especially by our dates.

When Jonah finally became aware that his negative beliefs were blocking the road to love, he was able to turn things around.

You may be thing, “How did he do this?”

Jonah realized that he was trapped by the belief that he would never be lucky enough to find love.

He always craved the idea of being in a relationship, but never went after any of the girls he liked because he was so scared of rejection. Pretty soon, he developed this belief that he was UNWORTHY and UNDERRSERVING OF LOVE.

When Jonah came to work with me I challenged his beliefs and helped him to construct new ones.
Feeling better and more worthy, he began to look after himself more, by doing things he loved and that nourished him. He began a trajectory of self-growth which he hadn’t realized had been on standby for way too long.

Jonah got more involved in the things he held dear to him: sport, reading fantasy books and getting together with good friends. Pretty soon he was able to feel better about himself, put out great energy and enjoy himself more on dates.

The more he enjoyed himself the more the women he met enjoyed being around him.

The more the women he was with enjoyed being around him, the happier and more optimistic he felt.

If you’d like to learn more about how to overcome your barriers to finding love and figure out what is holding you back so you can feel ready to jump right into a great relationship, drop me a line by visiting my website.

Micki works with clients from all around the world via Skype. Check out her website to learn more about how she helps her clients create the relationships they want and how she may be able to help you too:

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